Dating and break up advice
"I like Greg a lot and we have our fun moments-but something doesn’t feel right." Sound familiar?
We hear this kind of statement on a regular basis from persons entering the foggy bog of uneasiness about their relationship.
Jennifer and Greg had been dating for nearly eight months when she confessed: "I can’t tell if it’s worth it or not." If you’ve ever wondered the same thing, we want to help you cut through the nebulous emotions and see your condition more clearly.
There are probably countless reasons why couples split, but in a study asking more than 150 dating couples who had just broken up to write an anonymous essay on "why we broke up," three reasons appeared again and again. Some men (27%) and many women (44%) complained of feeling trapped by their dating partner.
I’d rather not say, but what I will say is this, after months of consistent arguing, loss of sleep, and continuous stress, we mutually decided that it wasn’t the right time to continue the relationship. We went from kissing when the ball dropped to actually doing what we tried to avoid.
As a young, 21-year-old attending an HBCU and being exposed to attractive, intelligent, young African-American women, love and dating can get pretty stressful, especially if you’ve dealt with one person for the past two years and it ended badly.
I’ll admit it, she was amazing, I just wasn’t ready for the commitment (or at least I thought I wasn’t).
Now, post-relationship, we did what young people do, act up!
Lack of supportiveness was the third most common reason for a breakup. he’s inconsiderate and thoughtless about my feelings . Discovering legitimate reasons for ending a dating relationship, unfortunately, is only the first painful step toward breaking up. And because it is so difficult and because it hurts, it’s easy to put it off-like delaying a root canal while the decay continues to fester.
Basically all dating is just practice for more dating.
So if you're doing it at all, you're getting better at it, one relationship at a time.6.
It makes you excited about the idea of love for the first time in a long time.
Finally, that pesky urge to throw spitballs at every passing couple goes away a little because now you are one of those passing couples. You get to learn how someone new kisses and hugs and touches, and it's all super-exciting. It's a chance to make new memories in places where you might have bad ones.